Can you let go?
Can you let go expectations? Can you let go beliefs? Can you let go tensions? Can you let go doubt?
Wen we learn to let loose, we learn to free ourselves and open up for the new. We create room inside of us and in our life by releasing what we latched onto before. Each time we can let go, we can engage in something new.
Letting go is not a one-time action. One cannot let go and the issue simply disappears into nonentity. Quite the contrary it is a process we can pass through again and again with every moment of our life. I feel a tension in my body and I let go. I notice that an expectation is not met and I let go. A belief bars my way – and I let go.
Naturally, the tension, the expectation, the belief or the feeling can return anytime when its information is currently necessary for me. Then it is important to look at it and don’t practice letting go as some kind of brushing aside. Letting go should be part of the solution instead of denying the existence of the problem. We cannot let go the problem itself – but we can let go what prevents us from solving the problem.
We can ignore, deny or belittle the problem – it persists. I can tell myself that I have solved the problem when I do not busy myself with it anymore. But sooner or later it will emerge and remind me again that it is only waiting for being solved.
Letting go and solving are tightly connected but they are not the same. For a moment we can let go our belief that we will never achieve our goals and thereby create room for growth, room we can use to strengthen the belief that we are worthy and that there is a huge dozing potential inside of us. But therefor we have to become active and do what is necessary to solve the real problem, namely breaking through the downward spiral of destructive beliefs and destructive actions.
Being able to let go helps us to clear the way for the first step. However, critical for success is that we take this first step and which steps we take thereafter.
Over the intervening years we learn that certain emotions are not appropriate in certain situations. We learn to control our feelings which usually means suppressing and hiding them. In doing so, we partly lose the connection with our body. We come to the conclusion that there are negative emotions we should eliminate as far as possible. Instead of sensing inside our body and learn how grief feels and where anger is located we try to get rid of these feelings by distracting ourselves, keeping us busy with other topics. As long as we are convinced that uncomfortable emotions are bad for us this seems like a reasonable strategy and absolutely can be appropriate in some situations. Yet, how can we let a feeling loose, how can we solve a feeling we do not know anything about? How can we let it go while we don’t know where it came from, how it feels, where it is? How can we let go and solve thoughts when we do not know that they are there, when they appear and which effect they have on our emotions?
How can we understand what the uncomfortable wants to tell us when we do not tolerate it speaking to us?
For being able to let go, we first have to establish a soft connection to our body, our mental and emotional life. Only when we are connected to our self we can recognise, understand and use the information our self holds for us. We can realise why certain thoughts and feelings arise consistently. Only when we identify them, we can let them go and only when we solve the underlying problems these thoughts and emotions won’t have a reason to bother us in the long run.
We all have our issues in life whose solution affords time, power and often courage. It might seem exhausting to consciously experience the uncomfortable feelings which occur this these issues but it is the first step towards the solution and thereby towards being free.